eBicwcaYou know that moment when someone has to do something for you and then they develop draggy feet and you get so annoyed? Well this is when you read the caption again with meaning in every iota of the pun intended in it….BITCH BEACH PLEASE! (pardon my French) Why? Because actually, contrary to popular belief, no one owes you anything!

This is something that took me a long time to realize, but it’s the cold, hard truth. You might think I’m being too harsh with the caption but it still the truth. If you’ve got parents, siblings, friends, a girlfriend/wife etc., they care about you so they would want to do things for you. But get it straight here, because they do what they do does not translate that they are mandated to do so.

Once you learn that you must earn the love and respect of others, you’ll never expect the impossible and you won’t be disappointed. Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts. No one has to love you. If someone loves you, it’s because there’s something special about you that gives him happiness. Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you, so that you’ll be loved even more.

When people do things for you, it’s because they want to — because you, in some way, you give them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything so if they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things and you have every reason to be proud of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the job you land, the property you’ve earned. But don’t ever take them for granted. If you do, you could lose them. They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them.

However, what other people give you is never more then you can create for yourself. It’s just meager scraps. Not the bountiful reward but mere leftovers. It is never the grand prize. Some people will even choose not to be with you for reasons that have nothing to do with you. When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want. Don’t make someone else’s problem your problem.You owe yourself more than that. You owe yourself more than someone else’s garage sale cast-away, reduced-to-clear ‘dongomi’ sale.

Entitlement is the beginning of disaster. It’s a disease that will suck your soul dry and destroy your motivation for pursuing big dreams. When you feel like other people owe you something you miss out on the opportunities in front of you to be amazing. Instead of working ferociously towards your dreams you wait to be handed the things you think you are owed.


When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you’ll be freed from expecting what isn’t likely to be. You owe it to yourself to be the best possible version of yourself ever. Think about it it’s just like Apple relying on Samsung to make it better…it will never happen!

A great burden was lifted from my shoulders since I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out; physically and emotionally , trying to collect them. I want more than anything else for you to come this realization also that can set you free: no one owes you anything.

You have a near-infinite license to reshape yourself. There is so much time now between where you are and your death to turn things around for yourself. Unless you’re a serial killer, who has spending most of your life flying under the radar, people don’t think ill of you, they don’t think well of you; they don’t think of you at all except God who keeps you in his thought at all times. It’s actually between you and your God.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Forget the past, forget your mistakes, forget your missed opportunities and start creating the life you want to live today. There’s nothing in your way but your own self-doubt. No one else is living for you, because no one is you.


    1. you see my point is that it is contractual. Quid pro quo if you may put it. If you don’t live up to your expectation you could be dropped.The reciprocal effect exists for a relationship to exist. Read this excerpt …”If you’ve got parents, siblings, friends, a girlfriend/wife etc., they care about you so they would want to do things for you. But get it straight here, because they do what they do does not translate that they are mandated to do so.”

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