So I had the best and longest weekend ever these past couple of days. I actually lost track of time, the reason I couldn’t post yesterday because it felt like it was Sunday. From the City Business Olympics (which I won the first round of the men’s swimming race) to the unforgettable stay and outings with some annoyingly awesome friends with actual benefits. In short I had mad fun. But what kept running through my mind all this time I was having amazing fun was a riveting conversation I had with one colleague from work on Friday as I headed home for the weekend.
The conversation started off when we saw a young man in his early 20s in a fresh “tear-rubber” Range Rover ( the car of life,no arguments) comfortably bubbling his head to some kind of music while stuck in traffic. We on the other hand walked by in our ‘Legs-us’ but not so comfortably because of the countless stares we received from the numerous drivers we walked by. Then he said, “These people are just lucky.” Usually I would just agree with him because he is a little older and much knowledgeable than I am. But this time I retorted with “I think it’s more about their choice.” This spun the whole conversation into being. We went on and on for a while till we parted ways but the argument still reverberated in my head. Is life by choosing what you want will happen or is life a destiny? Is life a choice or by chance?
In my own opinion life is a matter of choice; you are the one directing it. What will be in your life is a product of the total summation of the choices you make. Making decisions on what’s best for you or sometimes what makes you happy is the one we choose. And we mostly neglect the repercussions.So following the principle of ‘As you make your bed so you lay in it,’ only goes to affirm that life is all about choices.
Don’t get me wrong I believe in chances but I don’t believe in special opportunities to guarantee success in life. It is a fact that people from richer backgrounds often succeed. But in that same regard, there are people from ‘poorer’ backgrounds who have equally succeeded. So I ask, what is your reason not to succeed? Life is full of chances, but also life is full of options or choices. Life is full of surprises and we don’t know what will happen next. We don’t know if the decisions we make are for your good or not.
In Ecclesiastes 9:11 it says “I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favor to men of skill; but time and chance happens to them all.” This may seem contradictory to my whole stance on choices but I see each day we live as a chance presented to us all with 24 hours each nothing more, nothing less. As you’re alive, you have a shot at making something impactful with your life irrespective of the circumstances of background, race, gender, age or location. The most important chance you need is life and that is an equal turf as long as you breathe.
Live life to the fullest even if you believe it’s by chance or by choice. The important thing is to be careful of what choices you make with the chance (life) you’re given to make a change.