Not long ago in the far away planet of earth, its inhabitants were filled with  the need for approval. There was an attention “whore ”   (intended in the cleanest and least offensive of ways) seed sown in all of them. But in almost all of them, it  was  just a small part of who they were.

Most of them could live without extensive attention from the world, and they could get along just fine as long as they had a few friends they could rely on. But there were a few others who completely needed the attention of everyone in the world, every ear they could possibly scream into; every eye that they could draw. They were the true seekers, the Seekers of Attention and hence their legend.

So you’re welcome to the world of the attention seekers where we crave instant adulation from total strangers to receive gratification for the motivation to continue this vicious cycle of affectation. Before we go any further, let’s make sure we’re on the same page on who an attention seeker is pragmatically.All of us know of at least one attention whore, be it the mild or the blatant kind. If you don’t know even one attention whore in your group of friends, you’re probably that annoying attention seeker and don’t even realize it!

Here is the diagnostic test to know for sure. If you answer yes to any of the following questions, then you’re it.

First question: Do you crave for compliments?  With this test the symptoms may include that you’re very liberal with your compliments when you’re around friends or colleagues in the hope of getting a compliment back from others.

Second question: Do you want to be noticed? Symptoms include that you get upset if no one notices your new haircut or the new shirt you’re wearing to work. If no one compliments a dress you’re wearing, you assume it looks bad on you even if you loved it when you bought it at the store.

If you answered in affirmation to any of the above then my dear brother or sister you’re an attention seeker. Attention seeking reeks of desperation. For a a male, it is entangled with narcissism. Men can be egomaniacs, but women can’t be narcissistic. Never forget that a large part of femininity is predicated upon looking good, but not drawing overt attention to how good you look or acting like you know you look good. So any anyone lying within this bracket in my opinion over qualifies.


At this point you may be thinking no harm can ever come off it, well, you’d also obviously wonder what’s wrong with it. But in reality, being a desperate attention whore can do more damage than good to you. Unless you’re earning money off your attention seeking ways on a reality show like the Kardashians, it won’t help you in any way. Your attention whoring ways will leave you feeling insecure, make your friends hate you, and eventually, no one will even trust you or even care for you and here is why.

I say this passionately with the most conviction because I have been there in that position where I sought after attention as though it was Jollof. In my defense I am a sanguine and attention seeking comes natural to us. But to the point where I went over and under to covert these attentions that was where I was whoring. Attention seeking comes with this feeling of an overly superior self with the tendency of self pride and self conceit.

For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. (Romans 12:3)

So the next time you feel the pressure to whore after attention just ask yourself this one question…”Is attention Jollof?”



  1. Really nice one, only, I’m beginning to think I’m an attention seeker in a subtle kinda way??.
    You see, there are people who get fired up to do better when given recognition as opposed to monetary compensation. This sorta person knowing fully well that they are motivated by recognition may go out of his/her way to give recognition/compliments to people who do well. Pls is this attention seeking or I’m going totally off?

  2. Everybody wants recognition usually in a very subtle manner
    It yields positive results most times esp. when the intent is a good one
    The problem is when it becomes your preoccupation in which case it even breeds disdain.
    Nice piece… I like the title

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